Becoming Unbusy

“‘Busy’ has become the new ‘Fine’.” As in, when you ask somebody how they were doing, they used to answer, “Fine.” But nowadays, everybody answers, “Busy.” (As quoted in the article “A Helpful Guide to Becoming Unbusy” by Joshua Becker.) It’s surprisingly difficult to resist busyness. I find myself fighting to keep life as simple as possible. … Continue reading

What a damn fool I’ve been!

So important to remember … There’s no greater foolishness than to spend one’s lifetime acknowledging that one is deluded and yet doing nothing whatsoever about it. Then, when it’s too late to do anything, we suddenly find ourselves at death’s door, thinking, “What a damn fool I’ve been! I’ve squandered this precious opportunity!” At that … Continue reading

Rules for Kindness

• Treat people the way you would like to be treated. • Play fair. • Respect everyone—other students and all staff. • Everyone can play. • Help others when they need help. • Don’t hurt others on the inside or the outside. • Honor all of the pillars of ethics. Source: Carderock Elementary School via … Continue reading


I am no longer the perfectionist I once was. Occasionally, I still notice when a picture frame is not sitting at the exact angle that I had placed it on a shelf. But, thankfully, I no longer have insomnia when the dining room table is covered with mail and miscellaneous papers. Still, one of my … Continue reading

Silence is the place where the story lands …

You cannot breath out unless you have breathed in.  The light follows the darkness. You cannot wake unless you have slept. “Talking talking talking – no matter how magical, powerful, rich and fascinating – will become only noise unless you allow space for the words to fully integrate and become a part of the listener. … Continue reading


“Ego is like a room of your own, a room with a view with the temperature and the smells and the music that you like. You want it your own way. You’d just like to have a little peace, you’d like to have a little happiness, you know, just gimme a break. But the more … Continue reading

I haven’t …

“I HAVEN’T MEDITATED in a while. I haven’t pierced the illusion of separateness in a while. I haven’t dissolved into white light in a while. I haven’t taken a deep breath in a while. I haven’t heard the sound of one hand clapping in a while. I haven’t looked in the mirror and laughed at my … Continue reading

The Courage to Wait

“When you’re like a keg of dynamite about to go off, patience means just slowing down at that point-just pausing-instead of immediately acting on your usual, habitual response. You refrain from acting, you stop talking to yourself, and then you connect with the soft spot. But at the same time you are completely and totally … Continue reading

Noticing Space

“Noticing the space around people and things provides a different way of looking at them, and developing this spacious view is a way of opening oneself. When one has a spacious mind, there is room for everything. When one has a narrow mind, there is room for only a few things. Everything has to be … Continue reading

Courageous Mothering

Following are some thoughts after reading “Let Your Courage Emerge” (The Balanced Mom). These thoughts were written in five minute intervals between the words “Momma, come” …  “Momma, eat” … “Momma, play” … “Momma, help” … “Momma, read” … “Momma, cheese” … “Momma, milk” … “Momma, color” … “Momma, water” … and finally a meltdown over going … Continue reading